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All About Sex: 3/18/07 - 3/25/07
All About Sex
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Friday, March 23, 2007
What is Female Masturbation?
Masturbation can be defined as a self-stimulation that brings out sexual sensations. The use of the word masturbation usually refers to a person manipulating genitals to the point of intense pleasure or orgasm. Orgasm refers to a period of intense excitement in which the genital muscles come to a series of highly pleasurable contractions or movements. Masturbation according to some health care providers is a healthy way to express and explore your sexuality and also release sexual tension without all the associated risks of the sexual intercourse. Health professionals generally agree that this private touching is a natural, normal mode of self-exploration and sexual expression. Unfortunately, after the excitement of the moment has passed, many people find themselves overwhelmed by guilt and/or shame.
Our attitudes towards masturbation have deep roots for sure. Around the turn-of-the-century, some adults were so against masturbation that they forced their daughters to wear gloves made of a steel-wool-like material at night and to put a powder on their genitals that made them painful to touch. Boys and girls were discouraged from masturbation by the threat of blindness, madness and illness. Of course, all of these are not true. Most surveys suggest that approximately 70% of teen females "admitted" masturbating. It is always hard to establish absolute truth in any survey on sexuality and sexual behavior, since they are influenced so much by what people think is "normal". . Mother's told children not to touch themselves "down there" and wow, what an embarrassment if the child did that in public!
For many people the consequence of our mothers' or fathers' difficulty with our innocent sexuality when we were infants caused a misunderstanding about masturbation. Almost none of us had an explanation from our parents about this important issue, a genuine one, free from prejudice.
Just because they didn’t have either knowledge about it, neither to deal in a positive way with this important event in our lives, we are still tied to old ideas and that’s why we feel ashamed to have pleasure from exploring our own bodies.
What is Male Orgasm? The period of emission and ejaculation is called the male orgasm. Penile erection involves a complex interaction between three systems of the body: the vascular system, the nervous system, and the endocrine system.
Erection
Erection results from dilation of the arteries in the penis and an increase in arterial blood under high pressure -- to simplify things a bit. This causes the erectile tissue in the penis to become engorged. Erection also most likely involves several neurotransmitters.
Orgasm With increasing intensity of the sexual stimulus, the reflex centers of the spinal cord begin to emit impulses that leave the cord to the genitals and initiate emission, which is the forerunner of ejaculation. Fluid from the vas deferens, the prostate, the ampulla, and the seminal vesicles (and even more tiny glands) are propelled into the internal urethra by contractions of the groin muscles*.
The filling of the internal urethra elicits signals that are transmitted through the pudendal nerves from the spinal cord. Increases in pressure in the urethra cause the semen to be propelled to the exterior, resulting in ejaculation! The period of emission and ejaculation is termed male orgasm. After ejaculation erection ceases within 1 to 2 minutes in most males.
Hormonal Role? It is apparent that sexual desire and performance depend on some threshold level of testosterone, however, this level varies from man to man. One of the greatest inhibitors of sexual functioning in males is loss of or low self-esteem and the development of a negative self-image. Bulbocavernous muscles & ischiocavernous muscles. (for those that want to know). Bulbocavernous muscles are at the very base of the penis, the others are deeper in the groin around the penis.
What's The Difference Between Clitoral and Vaginal Orgasms? The difference between a "clitoral" and a "vaginal" orgasm is where you are being stimulated to achieve orgasm, not where you feel the orgasm. This may clear up some of the confusion around this common question. The clitoris has a central role in elevating feelings of sexual tension. During sexual excitement, the clitoris swells and changes position. The blood vessels through the whole pelvic area also swell, causing engorgement and creating a feeling a fullness and sexual sensitivity. Your inner vaginal lips swell and change shape. Your vagina balloons upward, and your uterus shifts position in your pelvis.
For some women, the outer third of their vagina and the cervix are also very sensitive or even more sensitive than the clitoris. When stimulated during intercourse or other vaginal penetration, these women do have intense orgasms. This would be what is referred to as a vaginal orgasm -- without clitoral stimulation. (Sigmund Freud made a pronouncement that the "mature" woman has orgasms only when her vagina, but not her clitoris, is stimulated).
This of course, made the man's penis central to a woman's sexual satisfaction. Many sexual health experts still disagree about any actual female ejaculation, although you will find plenty of web sites that will want to teach you how to do this for a fee, here you can check it out for free. For more on the often misunderstood G-Spot, see that page. In reality, orgasms are a very individual experience and there is no one correct pattern of sexual response. Whatever feels wonderful to you, makes you feel alive and happy, AND connected with your partner is what matters. Enjoy!
What is an Orgasm in Females and Why All The Mystery?
What is an orgasm? An orgasm is an emotional and physical experience that occurs during a “sexual response cycle”. Before an orgasm, your body becomes increasingly excited. Breathing, heart rate and blood pressure increases. The pupils of the eyes dilate; the lips of the mouth darken, the nipples become erect, the clitoris swells, becomes hard and exposed, (much like the aroused penis). With increased excitement, the skin becomes flushed and it begins to sweat. In women, the labia, clitoris, vagina and pelvic organs enlarge in very much the same way as the aroused penis enlarges. Sometimes there is a plateau of excitement which is held for several minutes before you are about to orgasm.
Orgasm is the point at which all the tension is suddenly released in a series of involuntary and pleasurable muscular contractions that may be felt in the vagina and/or uterus (some women do experience orgasms without contractions).
The orgasm happens when excitement seems to go over the edge -- a climax or crescendo is reached which may last several seconds or longer. During orgasm the body stiffens and the muscles contract. Involuntary muscle contractions and spasms may occur in various parts of the body, including your legs, stomach, arms, and back. The muscles of the vagina relax and contract rapidly, as do the muscles of the uterus. The glands of the vagina (Bartholin's glands) discharge a watery secretion, which acts to lubricate the vagina.
The main physical changes that occur during a sexual experience are a result of vasocongestion. This is the accumulation of blood in various parts of the body. Muscular tension increases and other changes occur throughout your body also.
Multiple Orgasm in WomenIt’s no secret that many women have multiple orgasms. Masters and Johnson documented this occurrence more than 25 years ago. But, do they serve a purpose besides from a pleasurable one?
Theories suggest that muscular contractions associated with orgasms pull sperm from the vagina to the cervix, where it's in better position to reach the egg. Researchers believe that if a woman climaxes up until 45 minutes after her lover ejaculates, she will retain significantly more sperm than she does after non-orgasmic sex.
The condition of premature ejaculation is most often described an inability to delay ejaculation to a point when it is mutually desirable for both partners. The definition of when ejaculation is premature is subjective.
While some men have trouble controlling their orgasm upon entry, others consider 3-6 minutes of copulation too little time. How long a man is able to participate in intercourse is not the most important issue in diagnosing premature ejaculation. The crucial issue is if a man is satisfied with his performance and if his partner was able to climax.
What is the etiology of premature ejaculation?
General causes of premature ejaculation are often related to some of the following situations:
Degree of sexual experience i.e. less experienced males will ejaculate quicker than a sexual experienced male.
The more exciting the situation i.e. a new partner, intercourse in a not so private place, etc.
Certain infections i.e. urethritis, prostitis, or other infections that effect the erectile bodies in the shaft of the penis.
Time since the last climax i.e. the longer the time period since the last ejaculation, the less control a man with have on his ejaculatory response
The more forceful or aggressive the thrusting, the sooner the male is likely to ejaculate.
Performance anxiety i.e. the more concerned or anxious the man is in satisfying his partner the more likely he will ejaculate at a quicker rate.
Fear associated with concerns i.e. getting discovered or caught in a sexual situation can also result in rapid ejaculatory response.
Guilt secondary to parental or religious beliefs i.e. premarital or extramarital sex contributes to the condition.
Concerns i.e. sexually transmitted diseases or potential pregnancy. Unresolved relationship issues.
Hyperactivity of the erectile bodies surrounding the penis and increased sensitivity to vibration in the penis.
Recent research has also linked several biological causes to premature ejaculation including hyperactivity of the erectile bodies surrounding the penis and increased sensitivity to vibration in the penis.
How common is premature ejaculation?
Premature ejaculation is one of the most common sexual problems affecting men. The condition affects approximately 25% of men under the age of 25 and 10% of men older than 25, making it one of the most common forms of male sexual dysfunction.
How can I prevent premature ejaculation?
Physicians’ Select Premature Ejaculation Cure reduces a man's penile sensation during intercourse while increasing his premature ejaculation control. The medication may be applied to the corona or head of the penis or to the entire penis depending on the degree of premature ejaculation control that is needed.
Application time: for severe cases individuals should apply the medication within five minutes of intercourse; milder case can apply the ointment up to an hour before intercourse.
What is Intimacy and Why Is It so Important? Intimacy is about being emotionally close to your partner, about being able to let your guard down, and let him or her know how you really feel. Intimacy is also about being able to accept and share in your partner's feelings, about being there when he/she wants to let their defences down.
We all have an `inner world' of feelings and experiences, the world of our day dreams, hopes, fears, hurts and memories, the world of our 'inner-most' thoughts. To be able to share our 'inner-world' with a partner we love, and to be able to share our partner's experiences, is one of the most rewarding aspects of a relationship.
Intimacy often doesn't need words, but being able to put feelings and experiences into words makes intimacy more likely to occur. Intimacy involves being able to share the whole range of feelings and experiences we have as human beings - pain and sadness, as well as happiness and love.
Most of us, however, find it easier to share some types of feelings than others. For example, are you and your partner able to let each other know how you feel about each other?
Saying 'I love you' is important. Assuming your partner knows about your love because of the way you behave is usually not enough.
How do you feel when you are sad, a little depressed, in need of some comforting and reassurance? Are you able to let yourself be dependent and to receive some nurturing? Is this balanced in your relationship, or is one partner the 'strong one' who never needs to show any vulnerability? If so, is this really how you want things to be in your relationship?
How do you feel about yourself? When you've taken a bit of a knock and are feeling small and 'put down', or when you've achieved something that makes you feel good about yourself.
How do you feel about sex? What you like and don't like in your love-making, and about how your sexual relationship could be made more enjoyable for you.
Do you really know what your partner thinks and feels, or do you have to guess and 'mind-read?' Are you able to be open with your partner, or do you feel that your partner would not be able to accept some of your feelings?
Intimacy is a journey of discovery in a relationship. Many couples start out their relationship sensing they have achieved a new dimension of intimacy which they have not experienced before. They are in love, it is exciting, and they cannot imagine a greater degree of intimacy.
Yet, as the years pass and couples go through some of the highs and lows in their relationship, they discover a series of deeper levels in their intimacy. Each discovery makes the relationship more rewarding and fulfilling.
Sex can be pretty confusing. You may have been told that sex is a sacred act between two married people who love each other very much. But then you turn on your TV and you see quite a different story - people having casual or meaningless sex, using it to get revenge or to control people, or using it to advertise everything from soft drinks to vacuum cleaners.
The point is, there's a lot of bad information floating around about sex. And while you may have already had "The Sex Talk" with your parents, you may still have a few questions. Your parents, your teachers or your doctor would likely be happy to answer your questions, but let's face it, some of this stuff can be pretty embarrassing: Wet Dreams
Sexy dreams can cause a guy to have an erection and ejaculate, or cum, during his sleep. When he wakes up, he's wet and sticky. This is a wet dream. The same occurs in girls, but the amount of moisture they produce is much less, and therefore it's not as noticeable. Wet dreams are pretty common at your age, but they don't happen to everybody, so don't worry if it doesn't happen to you. Fantasies
Fantasies are a safe way to explore your sexual desires. They're not weird, everybody has them and they don't make you a "pervert", so don't feel guilty about having them. Fantasies help you learn more about yourself and your romantic feelings, without having to act on them. They help you figure out what turns you on and what you're comfortable with. You can learn a lot from fantasies - what you want to do and what you don't - but a lot of fantasies will just stay as fantasies. It's normal for people to fantasize about things that they wouldn't be comfortable doing in real life. Or your fantasies can set the stage for real-life situations, and prepare you to act in a way that is true to yourself. They allow you to imagine having sex...without any of the real-life consequences. In some cases, your fantasies may become too big a part of your day.and you may spend more time in your head than on earth. Or, your fantasies become so life-like that you find it hard to hold back from trying them out in real life. In these situations, it may help to talk to someone you trust to help sort out your feelings.
The Bottom Line Do what you need to do to answer your questions. Read books, fantasize, and ask a trusted friend lots of questions. Or if you're comfortable, you can talk to your doctor, a school nurse, or a pharmacists - remember, unless you are in danger or have broken the law, whatever you talk about with your health care provider is confidential. Just remember that getting answers to your questions will help you grow as a healthy, mature sexual being.
You might find it embarrassing to ask questions about sex, but just think: If and when you decide to have sex, don't you want to be sure that you've done your homework? If you think it's embarrassing to ask questions now, just think how embarrassing it would be later!
